This post is more like a sequel to the previously reblogged post from SheilaSpeaks on ”Why Are You Still Single”.
I don’t think i’m qualified enough to talk about marriage considering my age and all buh at least i have an idea of what i want and what to expect which BTW is the last thing on my mind ATM.
Society has made it so ”mandatory” that by the age of 27-28 if you aren’t already married or thinking of getting married then something is fundamentally wrong. I’m not here to justify anyone or anything. Amean everyone wants to settle down at one point or the other buh the question is ”Are you really ready for it?” and by that i mean in EVERY area?! Spiritually,Emotionally,Financially….?!
These days the rate of failed marriages is ridiculously high it’s crazyy. And i’m like WTH are they thinking?!! Marriage is an institution ordained by God to last a LIFETIME and not 72days and because of that it shouldn’t be in a rush,race,competition or by societal expectations. It should be about YOU and YOU alone!!! Really, because i don’t understand why people rush into marriage only to end up rushing out. In some situations,some have been married up to 4 times even before they turn 50 which is very sad.
From my own point of view, i think marriage isn’t for the feeble or the desperate. Before you even think of marriage, i feel you should have attained a particular level of maturity both emotionally,spiritually and financially. Yes! Money matters A LOT! A whole lot of ladies marry for financial security which is soo wrong. Everyone wants a tall,dark,handsome rich guy (i’m guilty to an extent. 😉 who will take good care of them and give them heaven and earth thereby becoming totally dependent on the guy. Then they have to put up with whatever the guy throws at them whether good or bad. At that point,they lost their self-esteem and self-worth because they made the guy their world and he has left them heartbroken. Really,Life’s too short for all this. Why don’t you just take your time; enjoy your singlehood, build yourself, set standards, and just be Happy! There’s nothing wrong in being independent,financially stable and comfortable before marriage. Actually i prefer it and that’s what i plan to do. The wrong notion that ladies should be enslaved to men has ruined a lot of lives and i’m not about to be part of that.
I’m glad more ladies these days are better englightened,exposed and are taking control of their lives and not letting society dictate for them.
In the end, God is still the ultimate matchmaker. If He says you’ll be qualified for marriage at the age of 34, you know there’s absolutely nothing you can do about. Because as the Alpha and the Omega, He knows how long it will take for you to be matured both emotionally and spiritually to be the backbone of your family.
Proverbs 3 v4-5 says ”Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not on your own understanding. In ALL thy ways acknowledge him and He shall direct your path.