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‘Is It Your Complete?’ – When A Partner Takes The Place Of God In Your Life

About a week ago, as I was scrolling through my Instagram feed, I paused at Noble Igwe’s photo to read the caption. I thought I saw something that stirred in me.

I actually saw this.

 

She Completes Me

I didn’t know when I typed a comment,

Oh wow. Your wife completes you and not God? Good to know.

I honestly don’t know where that came from. I never write comments especially on celebrities’ pages. I just scroll and pass. For this, I never intended to come off as a sanctimonious Christian but I couldn’t help it. Of course, by the time I got back a while later, my mentions were filled with his voltrons. Why do I follow him again? I heard him speak at Social Media Week and I thought he had a great sense of humor. I don’t care so much for his fashion sense. Anyway, the most striking comment in my mention was,

Is it your complete?

I found that hilarious.

But it got me thinking about why I was affected by that phase. One too many times, I’ve read about how people put their spouses in that place of complete and total adoration. Then you begin to hear things like, ‘he/she completes me’ and you wonder where the place of God is. Everyone clearly knows that Noble is completely besotted with his wife so he probably needed a way to express that without being cliche which I totally get.

I’m not a marriage counselor and I’ve never been married but I’ve been a Christian all my life so I’m pretty knowledgeable about the things of God to an extent. One thing I know for certain is that God is a jealous God and he doesn’t particularly like when his glory is shared or tries to be shared. It doesn’t get any more simple than that.

I’m probably reaching here and it might not be as serious as I am making it out to be. Heck, I didn’t even read the rest of the caption but it is serious because it pains me how we have taken the institution of marriage, abused it and left the rest of us with the remnants of hope to latch on to. Yes, your partner or spouse can be everything you’ve ever dreamed of. As in Noble’s case, she can be beyond your wildest imagination because it seems to me that he cannot still believe his luck. It’s simply unbelievable! No shade.  Also, it begs the question of the state of his faith.

Just as I was about to click publish, I saw this thread and I thought it perfectly summarized everything.

 

https://twitter.com/_Faiidah/status/747552080110456833

 

https://twitter.com/_Faiidah/status/747553230670925824

https://twitter.com/_Faiidah/status/747556150581862401

Someday, I hope we can all get into this headspace that no one can complete us. Not even our spouses talkless of our boyfriends. The earlier we begin to unlearn that, the better for our marriages and relationships. Also, the earlier we begin to reverence God by acknowledging him and putting Him in his place, the better for us all.

That being said, I wish Noble a happy married life and I hope to God that his marriage has begun on a good foundation.

 

4 thoughts on “‘Is It Your Complete?’ – When A Partner Takes The Place Of God In Your Life”

  1. *dead* You actually “wrote out loud?”

    That’s too funny. But PREACH IT! Too many people go around feeling like they’re incomplete without their partner, but it’s untrue. We find our wholeness in the one who created us – GOD!

    Berry Dakara Blog

  2. LOL, trust you!
    I agree with you 100%.
    One doesn’t even have to be Christian to appreciate this.
    Would it be fair that God would make us, or that we would even exist (in the case of a non-religious person) with the need to FIND somebody to make us complete?
    What if we never do? What if that person dies or feels someone else completes them? Which kind life?
    It’s a myth (no thanks to Hollywood) but people need to unlearn this one asap!

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